I approach supervision as a process of becoming— a process that is deeply relational and which mirrors the essence of therapy itself. It’s not about acquiring a checklist of competencies or simply making sure that the supervisee is following a textbook model. In the same way that therapy is a living discipline, so is supervision: a dyad gets together to generate a dynamic, complex, and endlessly evolving journey. When I meet you in that space, I do so with a full determination and involvement in your growth as a healer and so I offer you my years of practice and my relational stance so that you leave with wisdom about what it means to be a heal others and the responsibility in implies.

I want you to consider the following two frames when we work together: the humility of the journeyman and the care of the coach. As a clinical journeyman, I transmit the wisdom of our trade, my hard-earned perspectival knowing as it lives beyond textbooks and technique. I pass on to you what I have grasped through years of practice: the shortcuts, the mannerisms, the warnings of where trouble can appear, and the small hacks that make the craft your own. I pass on to you the texts where I have learned theories and techniques. Like the tradesperson who assesses what a house needs, I help you see every client as a project who requires wise attention and from there I help you learn how to engage with resistance, when to let something emerge, when to intervene and that what we do is not about doing therapy “to code” but about learning how to work with the complexity of a job that cannot be contained in textbooks.

When you participate with me in supervision, I teach you that therapy is not just about transmission of knowledge but that it is fundamentally about transformation. Much like Cus D’Amato to Tyson, I aim to identify your strengths and vulnerabilities and will work with you to refine both. Coaching is not prescriptive, but it is deeply personal. I will readily declare that I will not aim to make you a version of me. My job is to help you become your best version of a therapist, to trust your own instincts by educating your implicit learning, to sharpen your timing, and to sense what a moment is calling for. Agape informs this process: I ground myself in my commitment to you, your goals, and your capacity to heal others and when I push you will feel that I do so because I care, because we have an agreement to work, because we both want you to grow.  We will know that a session without a “push” feels like something unfinished, untested, a “meh” session. That a good session feels alive, vital, and leaves you with something to chew on, long after we’re done.

A Transformative Relationship

Supervision, like therapy, is the relationship that heals all others, and this is not a platitude. Whether in therapy, parenting, teaching, or supervision self-transcendence, or what we colloquially call “growth”, emerges from relationships that move through rupture, repair, and moments of meeting. The supervisory relationship mirrors the therapeutic one in this way. Here, too, impasses will arise and frustrations will surface because there is no other path than the path of misunderstanding, when it comes to relationships. As it is the case with all relationships that aim for connection, there will be points where we touch “bare bottom,” as Foley did with Zack Mayo*, or where something radical is called for, like Morpheus putting his life on the line to awaken Neo or Master Knecht** jumping in the current to awaken his pupil. These aren’t breakdowns but the work itself and the relationship is the arena where such processing takes place, and it is through the break-repair cycle that your self-transcendence as a healer takes root.

The unconditional care and commitment represented in Agape can only be trusted when felt and not when proclaimed. This is why supervision with me is not about keeping everything pleasant or “safe” in the colloquial sense but about creating a space strong enough to hold challenge, discomfort, and failure. This is where my concept of protecting the night comes in, a metaphor borrowed from my work with couples. The night—relationships—must be protected at all times and we both work to never push it to a point of harm. Supervision requires patience, timing, and trust that there is always a way forward. We hold that commitment together.

As we participate in this process and keep our commitment, therapeutic wisdom is educated. You don’t leave supervision asking, “When do I know?” You leave sensing it. This is what John Vervaeke calls the ratio religio: a wise attunement to the present moment that comes not from deliberation but from the integration of all four types of knowing—propositional, procedural, participatory, and perspectival. You train so that your brain/mind, the machinery decides, intuitively and wisely, in the heat of a session, where to go. Timing, as I often say, cannot be taught in pieces or explained in advance—it must be lived.

The Impact that Endures

When a relationship is transformative, it leaves a mark. Long after our work ends, you will come back to what we did together. Like something a parent said, or something a teacher saw in you, like a sound intervention supervision seeks to create enduring material, something you “gnaw on forever.” Freud described this effect when speaking of a good interpretation, whose effect you can’t let go of, that keeps revealing new insights and perspectives every time you return to it. In supervision, this is what we go for, not just temporary solutions but timeless interventions that reshape your way of being a healer.

Innovation and the Future of Therapy

I also approach supervision with an eye on the future. Inspired by Ethan Mollick’s co-intelligence, I will explore with you the integration of AI as a tool to support therapeutic work and client participation. I believe that AI can assist in tracking patterns, streamlining administrative tasks, or illuminating new perspectives on clinical dynamics, but always with the therapist remaining the human in the loop. I believe that these tools, when used thoughtfully, expand what is possible, offering new ways to reflect on and engage with our craft while leaving the relational heart of therapy untouched.

The Work We’ll Do Together

Here is my message: If you’re looking for a supervisory relationship that challenges you to trust your instincts, sharpen your timing, and reflect deeply on your work, I invite you to connect.

Together, we will:

Refine your craft through careful review of sessions, growing from errors, and identifying your strengths.

Navigate resistance and repair in the supervisory relationship as a prototype for your work relational work with clients.

Cultivate implicit knowing by educating your wisdom so that you can trust yourself to act proportionately in moments that matter.

Build enduring insights that will shape how you see yourself and your role as a healer.

Supervision is not about checkmarks but about the long game and about helping you become a therapist who is not only technically skilled but wise, someone who can live up to the ultimate goals of our profession with clarity, confidence, and the ability to sense the next step.

The way forward is always there. Let’s find it together.